August 31, 2022

5. Don’t Make It a Measure of Your Love

5. Don’t Make It a Measure of Your Love Before you tell your partner what you like, you need to know yourself. Darnell encourages her clients to educate themselves about sex and find out what they enjoy. “If you don’t know what you like in bed, learn,” she says. “Take classes and workshops with your partner. Masturbate. Watch porn. Talk about touch. Follow sexologists on Instagram for thousands of free tips daily.” Overstreet echoes the importance of self-discovery. Take time to identify your turn-ons and turn-offs and explore what feels good to you. 4. Don’t Judge You both need to feel safe in order to open up and keep your sex lives healthy. That means no judging (yourself or your partner!). “Sex is sex. There are hundreds of ways to have sex,” explains Darnell. “Focus on how you want to feel, not what judgment is placed upon the activities.” Do […]